So How I Mer Your Mother came to a close this week. The finale has received fairly mixed reviews. I, for one, am a fan of how it ended. Most of my friends, not so much. Someone posted a link to the Time magazine review of the finale (the writer of the review was also not a fan) to my wall to attempt to show me why my opinion is wrong. I was going to leave the following few paragraphs as a comment to the post. But then I figured a) wouldn't it be better if I had this in one centralized place and b) I haven't posted to my blog in a while. So here you have It; my thoughts on the HIMYM finale (albeit, a little ranty, but my thoughts nonetheless).
Here's the thing. The final episode spanned 17 years. For 10 of those years, Ted was with Tracy and as far as we can tell, they had a great life. So to say that it should be called "How I Met Your Mother who died right away and then I hooked up with your abut robin again" is to say that if your loved one dies, you can't ever move on with your life ever.
Also, the story did end with Ted meeting Tracy. The two kids were the ones who, after hearing the story in its entirety, then told their father to pursue a relationship with Robin (six years after Tracy died, an acceptable period of mourning if I do say so).
Maybe Ted was subconsciously thinking it the whole time, but he was still very much in love with Tracy during the stories he told during the finale (and I would argue that he as a narrator was very much in love with Tracy during the whole series). Tracy is, was, and will always be "the one" for Ted. How Ted and Tracy met was just as magical/fate filled (if not more so) as how Ted met Robin. Ted and Tracy's paths constantly almost crossed, just barely missing each other until they finally met at the train station. Ted met Robin through a round of "Haaaaave you met Ted?" which has it's merit. But the universe constantly put Ted and Tracy in the same place at the same time, but life prevented them from meeting (the club on St. Patrick's Day, the Econ class, Tracy's apartment, neighboring rooms at the farhampton inn, the wedding reception). For most of those times, Ted overly romanticized Tracy more than he ever did with Robin ("those were the most beautiful ankles I've ever seen"). Also, Ted flat out refuses the advances of Robin in the episode before the finale (when she realizes that it was actually Ted who found the locket), which showed that he was over her in that moment. So to say that Ted didn't really love Tracy for those 10 years and he was still harboring a crush on Robin the whole time also misses the point. In fact, one could argue that it wasn't until Ted was finally able to get over Robin that he was able to find his "perfect" girl.
But life goes, on even through tragedy. This has been a recurring theme throughout the run of the series. Marshal's dad died, just as Lilly got pregnant with Marvin. Ted got left at the altar. Marshal and Lilly had to work past a summer of separation. Barney had to come to grips with his father. The way they dealt with some of those at times were silly. Other times, they treated the issue so seriously you would mistake it for a drama. But when all was said and done, the story would continue and the lives of the characters would go on. So why can't we be ok with Ted moving on with his life six years after his tragedy?
Another flawed criticism is that the finale of the episode brought every character back to square one in terms of character development. We got to see Barney go from being happily married to divorced to regression to his old ways which led to a tragic (albeit oblivious) downward spiral to redemption through fatherhood. Remember, Barney grew up not knowing his father. His daughter almost had the same fate until Barney reluctantly went in and met his daughter, which transformed him on the spot (probably subconsciously realizing that he didn't want to what his father did to him). In the same vein, we also have Ted and Robin who do get together again. But they're also totally different people. From 2013-2030, Robin has gone through the ups and downs of a marriage, a divorce, lost contact with her first friends she made after moving to NYC, and traveled all over the world for her job. During that time, Ted met the love of his life, had two children with her, moved into the suburbs, married her and had a ten year marriage, went through his wife's sickness and death, and went through a grieving process. Both Ted and Robin are completely different people in 2030 than they were in 2013, let alone in 2005 when they first met. What may have not been a good fit in your 20's may be a good fit in your 50's.
In the end, while there were flaws to the finale (using stock footage from 2005 provided for a visually clumsy final five minutes) I maintain that it was the perfect way to wrap up this sitcom, and I want nothing more or less from it.
Although I do want to know what happened with that goat...
